Ever been rejected? I have.
Actor friends, you’ve all heard that “you can be a great actor and never get a job” quote…or some variation of that. Perhaps it’s true. It is, after all, a very competitive industry.
It takes a lot of money and time to do this. Headshots, acting classes, driving to auditions and more! And when you live in Houston, driving out to auditions usually means driving to Austin or Dallas 😬 Basically, I know where all the speed traps are 😛
But even with awesome headshots, amazing acting classes, and rearranging your life at the last minute to make every audition, the door is slammed on your face more often than not. And hearing ‘no’ a little too often can really squash your self-confidence.
What do you do? I’m not sure what the “correct” way of bouncing back is (or if there even is one), but I’ve learned a few things along the way. Hopefully they can help you…
Get upset…on your own and for a minute
I know. It’s probably not what you want to hear, but getting upset helps a bit. Cry it out, yell it out, whatever you need to do. But do it in private and only for a minute. Not literal minute, but just a little bit of time. Don’t pout for too long or you won’t be able to stop.
Move on the next audition
Out with the old, in with the new! There’s an audition right around the corner. Instead of pouting some more, put that energy into preparing for that next audition or finding another audition.
Have something else going for you
Be well-rounded. Go out and do something. Not only will this new skill, whether it be kickboxing or painting, take up some of your time, it may even come in handy for a future role. Have an undergraduate or graduate degree? Get yourself a kick-ass (but flexible…remember, last minute auditions) job! Again, you never know how that experience will come in handy later.
Stop comparing yourself to the person who got it
Sure, it’s easier to see that the person who got the role looks nothing like you. But when they are similar…oy! 😥 Been there, done that. Not gonna lie. It hurts. Bad. But what can you do? She may look closely enough to me, but she brought something else. Not something better, but something different. Worry about you and brush it off. You are the only you.
Look back at how far you’ve come
It’s easy to get stuck in a rut and think of how many auditions you’ve had and not landed a majority of them. But, look at where you are now. There are so many times where I’ve gotten upset over another rejection, but then I look at my resume and think about how many things I’ve added to it since beginning this acting journey. Progress is progress, right? Right!
At least now you have thicker skin
Seriously. Nothing builds you up like being rejected time and time again. It’s like that saying, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” In this case, I’d say, it’s definitely true.
Are you an actor/actress? How do you deal with rejection?